Social Skills and Self-Esteem issues.

This isn't quite what you asked for but it is something i can give you. I don't know if it is something you can use or if it still exists or if it ever existed in your area.

The Academy, has been known to be useful with social issues with kids such as what you mention. It is about "group building" and trust building just all that social junk. I think they may have some good stuff for ADHD kids. They worked wonders for an old friend of mine. I was curious and decided to give it a shot myself loads of fun! I hope they are still around.

http://www.academynewton.com/

I want to say that this is the place but i am afraid i was a little girl at the time soooo it sounds if not like the place exactly then very similar to it. I don't know if you have something like it in your area but i have seen such a program work wonders.

Good luck!

Well i gave you what i could. As i said it was not exactly what you were looking for sorry. I tried... To atleast offer something that maybe could help a bit.... Too bad... I hope someone else can offer you something that will be of more use to your situation. Best of luck.

I went to the school behavior website you given and couldn't find anything to any resources available for social skills to add on his IEP,He used to get social skills in elementary school along with his speech,then he was put into the "Behavior Room" and I was told that they had their own social skills with in the classroom.I had a feeling that there was no social group going on in that class,because my son told me he wasn't having any.My son really lacks in this area,and was wondering if I can ask for something to put into his iEP tomorrow>

I agree with scifinut and Deb as well. This is a very very useful tool. Perhaps at times with some children even too useful.

I think we often forget, that children are not our pets. Even the ones with LD have rational minds as well. Though i agree there is merit to this method and there are times it is useful and completely worth using on your child.... There is another method too that may be worth exploring.

Understanding. Stopping and taking a moment in every situation of difficulty to take a few moments to try to assess the situation from the perspective of who your child is. Because there is often a rational reason for why they will not do something that goes so far beyond not liking to do it. Parents often forget that.

I don't know if any of you watch the TV show The Big Bang Theory but recently there was an episode where Sheldon used this technique of rewards for Penny. It was really funny given the context but in the context of dealing with children training them as you would your dog seems somehow.... Ethically questionable, especially when it is about getting what you perceive to be as the right behavior especially if you have not taken that moment to stop first and to try to view it from another perspective but there is definately a time and place to use this technique as a parent as well. I would just caution to use it carefulluy or you will train your child into a robot and kill the personality that lives inside of them.

Positive behavior plans is a very good means of helping a child who has social skills issues. There are however some other means which may be considered effective with your child at school. The suggested means is referred to as CBM or Cognitive Behavior Management stratigies. CBM is really a data base and helps students to monitor their own behavior, it helps them to make judgements about whether their behavior is appropriate and to make changes where needed.

The aim or main purpose of CBM is to promote the self control of an individual, solve their behavior problem through a means of recording and evaluating their behavior. There are three steps involve in teaching or implementing CBM they are 1.Instruction by another person e.g. an adult model
2.Overt self –instruction this is where the students speaks to self while performing the instructions.
3.Covert self-instruction here student guides his performance through private speech.

What CBM actually does for a student is that it promotes internal control rather than focus on external rewards and punishment. Students are provided with the tools of "how-to-think" when making changes to their behavior rather than a "what-to-think" instruction from their teacher. In essence the student is actually provided with tools to help in achieving succussful social behaviors. Because this strategy is operated by the student or will be operated by your child what will happen is, your child will be better able to generalize learnt behavior much more easily than if it was a strategy completely teacher operated.

This is a strategy which could be discussed with your childs' teacher all that is required is the modelling of acceptable behavior in the initial stage as well as the teacher may need to start out scoring and gradually fading this so the student takes full control thus learning responsibility and correct attitudes.