Everything I’ve read so far has been of most help to me trying to raise my 4 children by myself. I’ve tried to control it since childhood and seemed to manage some of the symptoms, to a degree. As my son reaches 16 and my daughters 13, 11 and 8, things aren’t as easy or easily handled. I don’t know how to put it into words. It all seems overwhelming. Not “THAT” overwhelming, but my fuse is short enough as it is. Any tips to share on getting through these adolesent years?
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I too have those days as well I am a teacher with a child that has ADHD maybe two( the older one is in a somewhat denial stage). I find that i have to take a moment and then I ask myself if whatever is going on will matter in 5 years. I also am glad that they are with me causing me trouble - hopefully small stuff- as they could lost, runaways, etc. I find confiding in my own kids help them to understand those days when I am not quite with it or I need thier help.
I don’t know if any of this will help but my thoughts are with you…
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Sparky
i feel for you. i have five kids, ages 8 - 16, but i have a husband to help…some. he comes from a very academic, “controlled” family, so it’s hard for him to understand, but he really trys. He also works ALOT, so tons of the daily consistency (hah!) comes from me. a few years ago my fuse got so short, and my phobia’s got worse, so i went on Celexa, an antidepressant. its’ been great for my patience. not too good for the attention though. i take Wellbuterein also to help with attention. it works ok. i’m less able to stay focused, but i’m much more patient about it. i figure the kids will remember more of my blow-ups than my mess-ups. but as they get older and more vocal, its so hard not to get into debating with them…
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Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and wisdom. It is greatly appreciated today. Thank You ALL.
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I lost my daughter 2 yrs. ago. She had ADHD.
My son has ADD and I have ADHD. With the convincing of my sons girlfriend he sent me an email on the aniversary of my daughters death telling me to stay out of their lives. The girlfriend had my sons baby. I haven’t seen her for 7 months now.
I too have a short fuse, but always managed to keep cool with him. There is a ten yr. difference in his age and my other two. I grew and was able to somehow manage better with him.
My only guess is that she felt i did not fit with her family. I’m me. I dress in jeans and sweatshirt turtleneck. Just me. I don’t get fancied up only for showers weddings and funerals if you get what I mean.
But no matter what..the buck stops with him. He allowed her to do this and he went along with it. I’m heartbroken and need to keep my laughter.
If only he would stop and think. He refused to accept his ADD. I did. I accepted mine and work with it each and every day.
dear mom with ld i am a fiftyone year old mom who is trying to say goodbye to my learning problems. i feel isolated and deeply frustrated all the time. i have three children also 20-19-15 itry to hide my problems but i have told the kids mom struggled with learning. i try to tell them to read and encourage them to visit the library. i have compassion for you and your family.