I was treated like I was stupid as a kid and still am to this day. I guess I shouldn’t let it bother me because I know that I’m not but I still do. I get angry at first and then let it bum me out. Does anyone else feel this way? If so how do you deal with it?
Knowing how you feel
I know how you feel, though I can tell you that with the right help and support it does get better.
For the first time in my life, at 37, everything is good. The job, the friends, the family and the lovelife. It takes awhile, but it’s worth it.
I have a great family, supportive friends who love me just the way I am, an amazing husband who thinks I’m great just the way I am, and a wonderful doctor who has really helped me by supplying medical treatment and support.
It took me until I was almost 30 years old to get confidence and believe in myself. Now I am able to tell the world to kiss off if they don’t like me—because I like me!
Don’t give up. Find people to help you and help yourself by not giving up and working hard to be who you want to be.
VA
Re: Does any one else feel this way
Most people in general are not well informed about neurological challenges like ADHD, dyslexia, and learning challenges where some people might seem to them to be stupid when in fact they are intelligent.
Since you know you’re smart, that’s the most important thing. What other people misthink is their problem, not yours. In the real world, if a merchant treats me as stupid they lose my business. I will go to their competitor or another merchant across the street who has good manners.
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[quote=”suzy-q”]I was treated like I was stupid as a kid and still am to this day. I guess I shouldn’t let it bother me because I know that I’m not but I still do. I get angry at first and then let it bum me out. Does anyone else feel this way? If so how do you deal with it?[/quote]
Frustrated
I’m a 25 year old manager suffering from ADD and I’ve been trying to finish my employee reviews the entire weekend. I’m still up at 3 AM and won’t be able to go to bed until I get these damn things done… they’re due, well, today.
I was written up recently for not following a procedure that was mentioned in a meeting and for the first time in my life, I notified my employer of my ADD. I feel like I’ve failed… I know how it feels. Don’t know if it helps any to see others feel your pain too.
it does help
I think it does help to hear what other people are going thru and how they deal with it. I appreciate the replies, THANKS.
Re: I know how you feel
[quote=”smallone”]There are so many times I just want to curl up into a ball and die because I feel like such an idiot. Everything I do seems to be wrong. No matter how hard I try, it’s not good enough. I’m sick of things. I want to be “normal”[/quote]
Me too! I say that all the time. I just want a normal life! I tried to get diagnosed years ago but the guy did not want to bother helping me.
I am not even sure how I found out then- talking like early 70’s. I was aware that I was a misfit. My favorite movie as a kid-Misfit Island there with Rudolf. I felt so connected when I watched him be rejected for being different.
I get into trouble all the time with work. I am not stupid, just not as quick to get it.
Hey, if anyone knew how messed up I have made things they would cry for me or laugh a lot.
There is hope though- one thing they cannot take from me is the determinaton to be a survivor. :lol:
learning disabilities
hi
just wondering. how others feel about add and ld. im new to this and
some times dont know.
im looking for other women. dealing with this. some days i totally hate my self.l i have no family , and trying to pick up the pieces. and get on with things
some time i work for hrs trying to get organized. my wort thing is i cant fill out paper work, or write a letter that makes since. so trying to deal with different problems . its almost usless.
i also have a camnucation proplem so it it seems like im locked in a maze i cant get out of. i have gone every where looking for help.
but there is none. im so lost and loanly some times.
you can email me. ill for get where i wrote this
NOBODY's FAILED!
People People People!!! YOU YOU YOU!
YOU HAVEN’T FAILED!
I’m gonna be addressing what I feel to all of you.
Having ADD/ADHD or whatever learning disability you might be having does not destroy you, IT makes you STRONGER! IT MAKES YOU MORE INTELLIGENT! Now you’re wondering that’s bullshit cuz I can’t keep my mind on things I can’t read very well or I get a problem while doing this while doing that etc etc.
Well you need to hear this and that is:
If all through your life you have been going through this without any kind of support and I mean without anything at all well then guess what you have learnt to cope with the so and so disorder or whatever it is that you have! and you have come out of all the situations where you have struggled if you hadn’t come out you might not be even reading this.
SO congratulate yourself first for going through all of it! SERIOUSLY!
And take support when you’re getting it, for example go and get diagnosed if you haven’t. HELP YOURSELF TO GROW! AND DON’T CRIB ABOUT WHATEVER YOU’RE GOING THROUGH! LOOK AT EVERY DAY WITH A RENEWED SPIRIT!!!
You will make it!
know the feeling
I own a business and I am just recently discovering that I have ADD. I have felt all my life like I just couldn’t go the extra step to complete my path and now I am feeling that there is a way. People will be people and will try to stand in your way and set you back. You must go one, be strong , and do your best. You will overcome and conquer through persistance and hard work….. hang in there and good luck
Call me Sue too, and Yes I also feel stupid etc...
[color=blue][/color][size=18][/size] :shock: :? I use to bring all my books home from school, the desire to be great at something but when faced with too much it just left my brain. I would just go blank. I was made fun of, ridiculed, used, etc. I wish I had known then what I know now about it. I want to be great at something too. I just got through my testing. ‘Do not know if I wil be considered LD or not. I am but now we have to see if a 52 yr old gets the right evaluation. If it come out normal they are not. LOL :roll: :D I do not want to be LD, but I am. I know that my confusion has a name now, and that makes it hopeful rather than hopeless. It is so much better to know that I am not stupid, just need a little help to be just as good as anyone. Like someone who is blind or deaf, they are not dumb, they need assistance to be able to work around their challenges. I want to help others like myself. I hope to someday. Pray for me on the 23rd of June. I sure hope the Psych has his act together. :wink: :) Hey any friend out there?? I have none anywhere.
Re: Does any one else feel this way
well, I would say you do have ADD/LD…life is hard for LD/ADD people..some suceed with there disability, but a lot do not(I’m in the latter category so far, but I’m really trying to turn things around in my life)..I tell you, some days just really SUCK! sorry, I’m one of those ADD/LD men who get pissed off sort of easily because of all my missed opportunities, frustrations in life…its weird how some days you feel great, things are going good, you can pay attention well, etc..then other days, its like what the hell is going on!?! Sue(or whatever you’re name is)..my advice is to be persistent…I myself sometimes give up to easily..I’m trying to not do this anymore, but again, its hard…I’m almost 35 and can barely pay my bills(and support myself..haven’t had luck with a decent full time job in over 2 years!!)..I sometimes wonder if I will ever get married..I can barely support myself..so frustrating sometimes :x
thanks cameron
I really appreciate those who hang in there together here, answer and share. thank you. Cameron, you are probably a very wonderful person, someone will be right for you in time. I struggle with bills, I was told yesterday to pay up or they take my house. It was willed to me by the only person who really cared in my life, my brother. If I lose it I kind of lose something so very special. but my job sucks too. sales. They tell me bad job for me. don’t laugh, I was thinking of going in bars and asking people to donate a dollar of so and trying to raise funds. If I could do that I would pay up back payments, and some day make a house for people with LD. Or any sort of helping place. dream silly stuff. You will make it. REad my results some where here too. Sue/shezadare :P
There are so many times I just want to curl up into a ball and die because I feel like such an idiot. Everything I do seems to be wrong. No matter how hard I try, it’s not good enough. I’m sick of things. I want to be “normal”