right then!what am i gonna do with my life? ever since primary school, understanding anything has been impossible for me.for some peculiar reason,english came quite easy to me but that was it.i just stuggled from job to job until the bosses realized that i wasn’t understanding anything and either cut my hours down to nothing or just plain let me go. personality wise,you never know i had some kind of problem except i hate eye-contact,but i can hold a conversation quite nicely.the only thing i can’t do is understand things when people explain them to me.what is quite simple for everyone else to understand,is absolutely chinese to me.i just came from a trip overseas where my friend pulled some strings to get me in.when i sat down with the boss,again i didn’t have a clue what she was trying to explain to me.i lost out on a darn fantastic paying job and i am absolutely furious at myself. all throughout school, i was in the slow classes.of course,this was wayyyy before they had all they fancy names for these types or conditions.all i ever heard is “he’s not trying as hard as he should”. well,i have darn well had it.i’ve never been diagnosed with anything but you can darn well believe i have some kind retention problem or something.my life has become everything i had hoped it wouldn’t. i refuse to take any medication because i’m as healthy as a horse and i will not be all doped up.i’m only in my 30’s but my future already seems mapped out for me and it doesn’t look very rosy i’m afraid. i’m in canada,if anyone can point me in the right kind of direction, i would appreciate it. am i a candidate for some kind of medical disability pension?it would sure take a load of my mind because everyday is absolute panic. someone ,pleeeaaaassee help!!!!! p.s,yes,my mother has the same problem as me but not my other brothers.
Thanks for your kind words!
hello winner!!
thanks for your kind words!! everything helps!!i wish everybody in my city could understand things the same way you do!
well, i understand what you’re saying about learning things a different way than other folks.unfortunately,there isn’t a whole lot of accomadating one singular individual. this job i lost overseas,which was supposed to be so easy a child could have done it,was anything but.
you’re right about learning things differently.i usually study things on my own with NO PRESSURE(!!) and can sometimes grasp things.but sometimes not.reviewing my old school text books,i still cannot,understand verbs,pronouns,etc.some things i can figure out .i have even taken children’s books from the library to try and self teach myself basic english skills,but to no avail-children’s books!!!!
how absolutely anyone can grasp math and science is absolutely beyond comprehension to me.to think, all the nitwits in these “girls gone wild” videos are all university students! and here they are acting like morons!
i watched all three harry potter movies and didn’t understand a thing. my french friend who is still learning english had to explain things to me afterwards. humiliating?you bet! and he never even read the books!
i’m planning on getting some kind of test in the next few weeks. even if there is no cure,maybe i can at least get some kind of pension instead of living in sheer terror day after day.i’m really quite embarrassed to tell my doctor about this because he things i’m a smart guy! oh,how i wish…
i’ll write back and let you know how my testing goes.thanks again!
know what u mean
im going through the same problems and just want to be succesful at 37 all these dreams no place to go. fail at everythin although i can draw ,never as good as someone else, mayb humor is your specialty or acting im shy though. my freind has dyslexia and he is good at fixin things ,maybe thats your specialty, im still lookin for mine maybe its helping others i guess we rnt all meant to be doctors and police men, unfortunatly canada does not reconize adhd as a disorder move to the states though yu get money for being this way/ anyway take care im always lookin for new freinds living in ontario here im [email protected] and help run a support grou[p here for kids
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I’m just reading posts right now but had to jump in. I’m just about 50 and if I had to list the failures, man that would not be fun, but just read that when edison invented the filament for the light bulb that finally worked, that was after 5000 failures. When interviewed (he was going against all of the known science of the time) before he was actually successful, he just said “I have not failed nearly 5000 times, I have merely identified 5000 ways that it won’t work, putting me that much closer” o if only I could have that focus. I’m finding that while struggling with the things that I struggle with I find stuff I like to do and have fun with that. I love making music and that allows all the creativity in the world, so I’m playing with a small band and working up opportunities to perform. great fun and seems to help some, although I must work to stay focused on work and not get distracted by my hobbies when I’m supposed to be working.
Bobbo..
you sound somewhat like myself…I am in my mid 30s and currently unemployed(again). I live in California, and have been a victum of the technology burst( started at the end of 2000) and still have not recovered….I am NOT a psychologist/Psychiatrist, but I believe you have Learning disabilities(Auditory, etc..)…I got diagnosed in the 4th grade and have been in ‘slow’ classes all throughout my school years..I am currently back in school at night trying to get my BS degree….there are different levels of ADD/LD, some people function VERY well…ie, high paying jobs, no job instability, no relationship problems, social problems, etc…..I’m in the first category(fairly severe LD/ADD)…I hear there is A LOT of help for ADD/LD in Candada…check out the last link below….good luck, man!
Here are some good, LD/ADD links for you:
http://www.ld.org/livingwithld/ldonjob_home.cfm
http://ldao.ca/about_ld/adults/
Oh well. I know EXACTLY what you are talking about !!!!!! I am in my 30-s, too, and went through the same hell as you are describing. And, believe it or not, there is no remedy… However, I am not going to elaborate on ADHD here…But, there is the good news!!! “he’s not trying as hard as he should”. It may be largely true. The problem is (or MAY BE) that you have not been trying the right thing for you. You have tried too much of what YOU BELIEVED you should do and try. Also, you may have been trying things same way the others do. I mean, you tried to be like the other people. And I think that is where the real issue lies. You belong to a special SUBSPECIES of humans, and who should not be trying to resemble the majority around, and to succeed the same ways they do. As soon as you understand this, you will be in a MUCH better shape. Trust me. :) And write to me any time you feel like it. My name is Vlad, I live in North East USA, near Philadelphia. my email [email protected]