I am wondering if my sons teacher (4th grader) has even read his IEP. I have had a parent teacher conferece and I sent notes back in fourth daily, and I am only getting more aggervated! I keep referring to the iep in my notes and conversations almost daily. Why should I have to? I still think as much as I have mentioned it the past two weeks that, you would think she would have it memorized right now.
Mrs. homeroom teacher keeps giving incompletes on math assignments and homework.
He is supposed to be in a special ed class room for math(his hardest subject). …Today I sent a note asking when he was going to start, because its not fair to him.
She keeps giving him incompletes for math homework, and it is plainly stated in IEP that he should be allowed more time for assignments if necessary. I had sent a note tuesday asking for more time, and she wrote incomplete beside it… i was not happy!! i send another yesterday, this time two page lette, very tactful and buttery sweet….so this time she sends him threes worksheets VERY HARD FOR HIM the night before he has 3 tests and had to be turned in today! IF he couldnt finish one in one night why does she think he can finish three. He doesnt get any of it. My husband and I both tried to explain it last night, again. We had to take turns because its very frustrating to someone without math ld’s to explain it to someone with math ld, and i do the best i can at teaching it. I don’t have a teaching degree, but I try many different strategies to explain it. I have add, and ld, although I had no difficulty in math, mine was in other subjects…ANYWAY
I sent a note this morning because we didnt even get to worksheet two, and pretty much said that I understand that he would not get credit but why is he still not in his Remedial Math class.
This isnt very fair to him. We spend WAY too much time every night on homework. My poor son has NO afterschool social life. It’s very discouraging. They actually asked me if I knew why he hated school so much. DUH! I don’t think they want to grasp that he is special, they just want to blame me. I can do his homework for him , but I am only cheating him. I am there every step of the way every night. If I didnt have ADHD and had some patience to teach, he would be homeschooled by me. I can’t stand this. PUBLIC SCHOOLS STINK!
Last year his teacher was HORRIBLE to me. I communicated with her on a regular basis, by phone, in writing, and in person. She made an ugly comment to me at our ending IEP meeting, had nothing to do with any of his academic subjects or habits…she had no input in the meeting what so ever other than sarcastic remarks. His Math LD teacher said she has been ugly to others like this before. and maybe its her personality. I emailed our principle and explained our year. She was very compassionate.
Now this year it seems we are getting another “bitty”, I hope not.
I just don’t get why they have to keep blaming me. I work hard with him and its obvious that i work with him daily because I communicate with them very often. I do not encourage his failure. I encourage success by shooting for their classroom goals. But each conversation with mrs. homeroom teacher is a litagation. I know i am easily defensive and maybe a little sensitive, but its not my imaginatin, Its discrimination.
he was awarded SSI for this first time no lawyer…obviously there is something more than me being the problem. I had to quit a very good job with good insurance after 6 years to stay home and focus more on his education.
I know this post is long and I am feeling sorry for myself. But I want some appreciation for a change. I am sick of being criticized.
Re: New teacher issues
I’d be calling the special ed. teacher very quickly to find out why he isn’t being pulled for math after two weeks! This situation is totally unacceptable. Call an IEP team meeting if you don’t get quick results from the resource teacher.
Janis
Re: New teacher issues
Call? Time to document in writing. Send letter to teacher and cc sped head and principal. They should be bending over backwards to placate you since they are in gross miscompliance with his iep, **not** insisting on scrawling “incomplete” on his work. This is all objective stuff so you can write it and then filter out any emotional stuff… the combination of the not getting the services in the iep *and* getting penalized for not being able to do the inappropriate work are the stuff of due process and schools having to pay to provide the services they promised but didn’t fulfill.
How big is the school? Is there a better choice in teachers available?
Like you said on my post….I can feel your pain. I HATE this. It’s not our children’s fault that have the problems they have. Just like I told the special ed guy I REFUSE TO ALLOW MY CHILD TO BE A STATISTIC OR SLIP THROUGH THE CRACKS because someone is failing to do their job. You’re gonna have to fight as hard as you can to get fair treatment for your child. Are you able to go to the school and talk to her face to face? At this point I wouldn’t even schedule a meeting, I’d just show up. It just infuriates me that these children are being punished for something they CANNOT help! When my son was in 3rd grade he was in resource for reading and math. They put him in his resource class while his regular class was doing science and history. Therefore, he was doing poorly in science and history because he was missing the classes but getting double of doses of math and reading and half of it he wasn’t even able to understand. We had MAJOR problems with his 3rd grade teacher. Everyone seemed to love her but I suppose that’s because they’re children weren’t LD (thank God) and weren’t making her have to give a little more understanding. Anyway, keep us updated and I’ll do the same.