You know by reading about you all today have just convince me of what I thought was wrong with my husband is probably true. My husband and myself have now been together for about 6 years and ever sence I met him he has been impatient, hyper ( always going 100 miles per hour making him a work aholic) he has extreme ups and downs. He turns to alcohol to make him feel better only then leaving him feeling guilty and not worthy. He is not even capable of taking a day off with out feeling that he is a looser because he is not at work. His extreme mood swings leaves him feeling like he is not an adiquate husband or father because he just simply does not have any patience at all. His favorite statement is that he only has a half of nerve and your on it. He knows that he is the way that he is and feels that it is the biggest fault that he has . And in all reallity it is truely his only fault. We have taken him to the doctor several times they just keep putting him on antidepressents and they just dont seem to truely work they work for a short time then its as if he is back to square one. Then he is again discouraged. I have mentioned several times to his doctor that he was diagnosed with ADHD as a child but his mother stated that the medication had made him ill and so she never tried anything else. (leaving him to live a very unjustified delinquent juvinille life) They just keep trying differant antidepressents. I had just reciently mentioned to my husband that I had seen a commercial for Bi polar and that they had a test on line to do and if you had enough of the symptoms that you could take it in to the doctor. I found it and read it, it just doesnt seem like him only the mood swings. If someone could help direct me in the right direction in helping my husband recieve the proper help and the proper way of directing it to him with out making him feel that in order for us to be together that he has to be on some type of medication. I only want him to be happy and to enjoy the wonderful family that he has to realize that he himself is a wonderful person too.
I would be forever greatful. We live in Salt Lake City, UT
I am so glad I found you all.
Donna
Re: HELP
ADHD is the most commonly misdiagnosed disorder in America. What appears to be ADHD is very often bipolar disorder. I highly recommend visiting a neuropsychologist and then seeing what he/she has to say after going through all of the testing that is involved with properly diagnosing any disorder.
Many doctors are ill informed about ADD and may not consider that an adult could have ADD, even an adult had it as a child. It used to be thought that people outgrew ADD, so if the doctor has bought into that myth that could account for your doctor’s non-reaction to the fact your husband was diagnosed as a child.
Your husband may indeed be depressed, but you’re quite right that there could be a physical reason underlying his behavior that if properly addressed could ease his depression. It could be ADD, or it could be something else entirely. A neurologist could probably help you find out what’s going on.