hi, my name is shannon at [email protected] i am 34 and have a daughter autumn and a son shiloh. autumn will be 16 in nov and home schools and is in 11th grade now and has made national honor roll twice. she is a good girl and loves her family. she loves the Lord too. she is scared of men since one attacked her and this is why she home schools now. we just moved to fort mill sc and she has no friends and i dont know how to meet her any. we use o go to church, but i have an 8yr old son who is slightly autistic with severe a.d.h.d. (autumn ia a.d.d. and doing well.) his a.d.h.d. is under control, and his autism isnt bad, but he cant sit through a service and sunday schools cant spend alot of time with him when he needs alot of attention. he is good. i was told he is one of the best a.d.h.d. casses theyve ever seen. for him to have it so severe and be so sweet is a miracle! he just loves animals too! his autism makes him freak when people touch him as far as hugging and such and he doesnt know how to socialize. but he is so sweet and gentle and has raised many animals. w are now down to one praise God! his a.d.h.d. keeps him from focussing and sitting still and he loves to talk to someoe all the time. he is real good with play station kinda things. autumn is gong into cosmotology school this fall if i can get financual assistance! some weeks we dont have money for groceries hardly. we are trying to sell this house. we got in over our heads. way over! as for me… im pretty much a happy go lucky person. ive been hurt alot so now i have a wall for people to work their way through. my best friends have all but one stabbed me in the back and cranked and churned the knife while it was in my back. i was too nice and too forgiving and they abused that quality in me. so now ive grown up in that area. i do love the Lord. that doesnt mean im “whatever the cliches are”. i am a human that prays and has morals. that sums up my family. i love my family. my husband is a trucker so he is gone and im left lonely for a friend to hang with. i love to just hang out at home with friends or throw a little part and play cards or whatever. we go to carrowinds (season passes were a c.mas gift.) once in a while. my daughters old enough to babysit a little so i can get out. i just never have money. im good at finding fre stuff to do.(or cheep anyhow) i have no family in the area, but they are interesting… they should star in a soap or on reality tv. there nuts! lol i love to dance, like to have fun, love to laugh, and talk. i want to make a lifetime friend. ive been so depressed i guess it is that ive gained 150pd. ugh! ive been going to ballys every other day for 3mo now and eating real good and etc. no change yet! ugh!!! see i think having a friend would help that too. well, i hope someone will respond that is in my area. i love people and have an open personality. need a friend who loves to talk!!!!!!!!!!!!! well, i feel dumb posting this but ive lived here a yr now and know no one. ugh! im in need of a good solid friend! (email friends are good too.!) shannon [email protected]
Church
I have to agree that church is probably your answer. One thing that has really struck me after reading your post is that you remind me of my very religious parents in that you seem very open, honest and trusting. As I was growing up, the vast majority of the people that I met at church were caring and wanted to understand and help each other (small church experience.) There were some wolves, however, that would occasionally prey on good folks like you and children. I’ve been sitting on this thought since you posted because it is such an uncomfortable thing to discuss but I feel compelled to advise you. We did quite a bit of church-testing as I was growing up and we generally went to church three times per week. Most people were great and I benefited from this extended family and a good circle of peers. I just wished that I hadn’t experienced so many close calls with predators. I also wish that my parents hadn’t opened our home and their purses to bad people. I really think that we were targeted because my parents were so pure at heart that they could not even comprehend evil and they really wanted to please God by helping others.
After being terribly depressing, I must say that Church is a wonderful place to find support. I think you may be surprised as to how accommodating a small church can be to people with special needs. My niece ended up assisting in the Sunday school class that her ADHD Aspergers child attended. Eventually she ended up teaching the class herself!
Terry
Keep searching for a church that is willing to work with you and your son, and welcome all of you. Church is so important for holding you up, and a church of people that love the Lord should be able to love all the Lord’s children. Maybe you need to find a church willing to do something a bit out of the ordinary — like, instead of trying to put your son in a Sunday School class where the teacher can’t spend a lot of time with him, ask that an extra Sunday School teacher’s assistant could be assigned to his class to give him more time; or even ask that someone work with him/teach him one-on-one during Sunday School. This may be a challenge to find, but maybe you can find a church willing to listen to your suggestions for how to make something work. I don’t know if a big church (with more resources, but less individual, personal relationships with pastors, etc.), or a small church (with less resources, but valueing every individual personally) would be better. I think it just comes down to the individual church. What denomination(s) or types of church (size, conservative/liberal, other) are you interested in? I know someone who may be able to recommend churches in Charlotte more open to working with you and your Shiloh.