I have a 13 year old boy with ADD who has terrible impulse control issues. Each year it gets worse instead of better regardless of the help, nutrition ideas and medication we continue to seek out.
Currently he is obsessed with how fabrics feel on his body and if left alone, even for a very short time, he will go into my room and take a perfectly good piece of clothing and cut it up and wear it in a not so nice to share way. He is very into wearing lingerie and is experimenting with my makeup. He has ruined so many things his tab is well over $500.
He then lies about taking things, and hides them in the weirdest places (like his toilet tank). I am so frustrated I am about to burst. Counseling doesn’t help because he lies to the counselors. I am at the end of my rope and wondering how I will manage my job and him for the summer. I don’t know where I can put him where he will be constantly supervised. He is too old for day care.
Can anybody offer some advice or ideas? Has anyone had a similar issues?
I’m so worn out with his lies and deceptive behavior.
Re: 13 year old child who can not be left alone
You’ve tried all the conventional methods.
Look into these two no matter who weird they sound:
LENS
http://www.ochslabs.com/intro.php
There’s a great read and well worth the same investment before diving into this treatment.
http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Power-Neurofeedback-Revolutionary-Technique/dp/1594770840/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1199226835&sr=8-1
Another option is Handle
www.handle.org
I think combining the two is an amazing program.
Frankly, I don’t see many other choices since medication isn’t solving anything.
Re: 13 year old child who can not be left alone
Frustrated Mom,
I can’t imagine what it must be like for you in dealing with your son’s behavior.
You might want to investigate whether the medication is causing these behaviors. My reasoning for this is that on the Paxil Progress Boards, many people reported doing some very strange things while on Paxil. I realize you son may be on other meds but in my opinion, all psych meds have the potential to cause some strange side effects.
While fortunately, I didn’t engage in behaviors like your son, being on psych meds definitely effected my behavior in strange ways. What is scary is that I wasn’t really aware of it until I started tapering off the meds.
PT1
I would have a second opinion done on the ADHD dx. This sounds like there is much more going on. Keep a record or chart of these behaviors. Giving this type of information to a psychiatrist could be very helpful in getting a better picture of what is going on with him.
As for the summer, is it possible to put him into camps or have a college student supervise him? Find activities and outlets that are positive.
You might also try puting locks on anything you don’t want him to get into.