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Anyone here have older LD teenagers? I have a question

Submitted by an LD OnLine user on

Hi:

My 17 year old daughter has different LD’s. Anyway, she’s at the age (chronologically) to get a job. She doesn’t act her age due to ADD and she acts like she’s 12 years old on average. Here is my situation. She wants to get a job and I want her to get a job and even though she’s of age, she is immature. SHe had a job at a local senior living community and it didn’t last because she had too many responsibilities. THey didn’t actually fire her they just told her the job wasn’t “right” for her. Okay, that’s fine. But now we are in a pickle. If we wait until her maturity level is that of a 17 year old she will be 23 years old with no job experience.

Do you get my point? I sure hope so.

Have any of you gone through this and if so, how did you work it out? I would appreciate any help here. I want her to feel and have responsibilities but I don’t want her to get shot down at every job because she can’t handle it either.

Thank you.

Submitted by Sue on Fri, 06/03/2005 - 4:09 PM

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Hmmm…. would she be amenable to a “job” at home? In a similar spot I was responsible for Monday’s meals at our house & learned a few basic recipes. (I think I was even 17 :-)).
Does she perceive that she needs to learn things to get a job? THat would make it easier — but even if she doesn’t agree, you can say “while you’re looking for the ‘right job,’ it’s a real hazard that you’ll get into the habits of being unemployed — so let’s work on those daily discipline habits.” She could pick some responsibility (perhaps from a list, or brainstorm with her) so it wasn’t totally tedious — after all, we often get some choice in our jobs — and work on having it done supremely well so it becomes a positive part of the day. The trick would probably be building in the structure (that I suspect her first attempt at a job was lacking) and feedback (you need to get used to the idea that “even though nobody’s looking, if you don’t do it, they notice right away”) so that she got accustomed to figuring out what she had to do and then motivating herself to do it and do it well.
Or… tryin’ to think out of the box… what are her skills and strengths? How could she be developing them further, productively?

No real answers, just hoping some stray thoughts will help…

Submitted by Beth from FL on Fri, 06/03/2005 - 5:48 PM

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Well, I’d start by trying to identify what went wrong with the first job and help her identify other types of positions. Most jobs for teenagers are being routine and boring. They tend to be structured so maybe that won’t be an issue again.

Also, what does she like? My 12 year old LD son just started working for a friend of my husband’s in his greenhouse. He loves plants and started a ton from seed/cuttings. Perhaps if she found something she was passionate about other issues wouldn’t matter. My son certainly isn’t mature for his age but they love him. He works hard because they are paying him for doing what he loves to do.

Beth

Submitted by samsavmom on Thu, 07/21/2005 - 9:28 PM

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My 16 y/o daughter that has CAPD just started her first job at Walt Disney World about two weeks ago.

When my daughter filled out her application she put down that she has CAPD. She was asked to go to her MD and get a job limitation form completed. She did and now they are training her within her learning abilities.

If the employer is unaware of the disability they cannot accomodate the disability.

Plus employers cannot discriminate against persons with disability (ADA).

It has helped my daughter’s self esteem because she has done the whole hiring process all by her self.

Good luck and try again.

Submitted by sisymay on Mon, 08/08/2005 - 5:34 AM

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My 15 yr old girl is getting closer to that day of getting out in the world and I am scared to death! For the way she is now, there is NO WAY she will make it! We are still struggling with her to deal with everyday life. We have a long way to go to get her to that point. We have struggled with trying to find help for all of us and the whole LD situation, education, behavior, family problems, the whole bit. We have not found ANYTHING to help us yet, after 7 years
So I know we can’t even get into the get out in the world phase yet. Oh I dread it!!

Submitted by marycas1 on Sat, 09/10/2005 - 2:15 AM

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My LD’er is 13 so we’re not there yet but I have two older boys

Most teens start working in the fast food industry or grocery stores.

I think she would be able to handle bagging groceries and wiping up tables. They usually start you at bagging or stocking in a grocery-its unlikely theyd put her on a register first day out

You shouldnt feel you are limiting her options IMO because that’s what neurotypical teens do

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