If there are any teachers out there this is for you. What message are teachers trying to send out when they write a child up for every little thing possible. I am slowing learning what battles to choose. But I am so surprised at some of the notes that I get from school. My son has never had violent tendancies, but just always get into trouble for blurting out and making bodily noises. Not staying on task, you know, he is Adhd. But, a few weeks ago, he had gotten stabbed in the chest with a pencil. Not a bad place but I had asked my son, why there was no incident report of it. If it had been him doing the stabbing, he would have been kicked out of school with a weapons violation. I told him to tell his teacher, to write it up the next day. He said he did tell her because he was expecting her to atleast look at it and put some medicine on it. She did not even ask to see the wound. Two more days went by and I ask him why there was still no report of this incident, her comment to him was ” You probably started it” To me, teachers do get your number. This is a prime example. I started to break off a pencil lead and put it in a baggie and take it to the school and say ” This is what the doctor pulled out of my sons chest” But I didnt do it. I still just relish the thought of the look in their eyes. How dare her think that he must have done something to deserve that! The fact was…the stabber in the situation was goofing off not doing what he was supposed to be doing and accidently stabbed my son. Would it have been so hard to say that? Honestly, my son would have been severely punished. Why do teachers feel the need to tell the parents of ADHD kids every time they wiggle in thier seat?
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Ok Steve, Maybe I should rephrase my question. For the record, I love my sons teacher. She is the best teacher he has ever had and has make a remarkable difference in his life. The question I have is not to put anyone on trial for justice but why would parents have to argue to get school staff to do the morally right thing. I have already been thru the issues of being told by the principal not to believe anything my son comes home and tells me. I don’t know why I would be told that because he has never just made up stories for the sake of getting my atttention. So, since I am not to believe anything on just his word, I have made it a habit now to call atleast 2 other parents when I have a personel issue and get them and their children involved to see if everyone has the same story. Its bad I have to do that but if my son’s word isnt good enough then I guess that’s the way it is. So far this year, I have complained about another teacher who threw my son’s cruthces across the room, shook him in his wheel chair, threw another ADD boys books in the trash can ranting and raving for the boy to tell his mom not to bring him back to school and that she was going to make his mom pay for the books, making fun of handwriting skills in front of the class, another teacher who called my son names while swinging a pointer stick in his face and slamming it all around his face, I could go on and on. (All of these has been proven and some admitted to) My question is….do I keep complaining and complaining? What battles are worth fighting? I feel these are serious issues. Treatments like these should be dealt with and not allowed to happen.
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Not every teacher is this way but doing this is a sadly long established custom in schools. It dates back to a different time.
It’s also true that too many teachers have too many students in their classrooms and that classrooms become very hard to manage. In frustration, teachers dash off notes to parents constantly as they have no time to sit and counsel students themselves.
Why haven’t you contacted the teacher to ask for her side of this story? I find it incredibly interesting and extremely frustrating that parents take everything stated as being fact. Before you judge this individual take the time to ask, and if the story your son provided is accurate then pursue it at a higher level. Why do parents not get all the facts? Even our worst criminals have their day in court!