Hello, I am new to this sight and need some help with a teen with LD. Discipline….how to handle this. I have looked through some of the posts on here and it seems you have many intellegent people here. My husband says I am to easy on her, I think he is to tough. What to do?! She is a handful and until recently we didn’t have a reason for her behavior. She is so angry, volitile, aggressive, and frustrating! And of course as is the LD way she claims no responsability for her actions because it is always someone elses fault she is in trouble! :? Only have known she is LD for a few months and she is 14! Although I had insisted to her ped. Dr. (and others) many times that there was something “wrong” with her the “symptoms” were to vague to get them to take me seriously. As I also homeschool her I made the huge mistake of thinking she was lazy or just plain trying to drive me crazy when she couldn’t learn her multiplication table after 4 years! I am still in the guilt, anger, guilt, sadness, researching, guilt, did I mention guilt phase of it all? :wink: Thank you, thank you, thank you to all who reply.
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Who diagnosed her LD? Could that person also evaluate her behaviors and give you some pointers? I have a 14yo 8th grader who is LD, not homeschooled, and it is a challenging age! We hold him responsible for his actions, and for school performance. Yes he needs to work far harder than his brother and most peers, but that’s the way it is. I wonder if you are continuing homeschooling thru high school? Sometimes it is easier to turn the school piece over to others and maintain a balance at home in the teen years.
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I have a non-ld 14-year-old girl and these are definitely the difficult years. It’s normal! You might want to take a look at Mel Levine’s book “The Myth of Laziness.” It may help give you insight into areas your daughter may be having difficulty with.
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Thank you all for your help. I understand that the teen years are full of challenges, but I feel she is on a path of distruction. She was recieving counseling and we hope to have the funds to get her back into it soon. Although that wasn’t helping much as far as we could see. Maybe she just needed more time.
Her defient, disrespectful behavior is the most upsetting to us. Some of this is normal teen age angst, but I feel she goes beyond this especially with her father. No there isn’t any hidden agenda with her father. The issues they had were verbal and it has been dealt with. (long, long story!)
Second to that is her holier than though attitude. We, her family, feel as if anyone and anything is much more important to her(normal for a teen). If one of us is sick or hurt she will laugh about it and act as if she could care less (not normal ever). But God for bid one of our pets was to have a minor illness/injury! You’d think the world was going to end.
I just don’t get it…and she has always been this way. I am very concerned that she has a mental/behavioral disorder that we haven’t been able to pinpoint yet. As her mom, and a well intuned, intellegent woman, I am telling you she has not behaved normally for at any age.
I have searched the internet for hours, read everything I can get my hands on, and spoken to countless Dr.’s, friends, family, and counselors to no avail.
We are trying to get her SSI so we can use the money to get her back into counseling and maybe a anger management therapy. Any other suggested therapy’s????
Sorry to ramble. Feel funny to share so much of our life, but am hoping to get some answers somewhere. Thank you again.
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Welcome.
One of the best forums I know of for discussing behavior issues is
www.conductdisorders.com
The articles and links are only okay but the furums are very good for parents of kids that a bit beyond the normal struggle. You may wish to post there as well.
And please don’t worry about what you write to us. Most of us have been there too.
Take care,
Barb
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Having your daughter educationally tested, and also evaluated by a good psychologist may be helpful. Maybe you’ll discover that there really is something going on, or that your daughter is just a difficult person.
So far what you’ve described sounds within normal to me. Some kids really are more challenging than others. And my daughter has ALWAYS been a challenge. I can remember many a time when she was a toddler, leaving a cart of groceries behind because she was screaming at the top of her lungs.
But I also think it can’t hurt to look further and try to figure out if there is more going on. Good luck!
I have three teens and we DO have to remember that those years are difficult no matter what; my LD child is my youngest at 13 so things could change, but 95% of the time my middle non-LD 17 yr old son is my biggest behavior challenge, right down to the ‘not my fault’ way of life
Can you give us more details about what she find difficult with learning? What behavior is driving you the most crazy?