Please Help! Sibling of LD adult, having trouble w/ parent

Hi there-

I’m new here and really need advice/help…

My twin brother is a 29 year old living on his own across the country from me and we’re in the middle of a crisis with my Mom.

Mom is “tired” of dealing with him - meaning: she can’t take the day to day stress of his particular LD issues after 29 years. So she’s threatening him with moving him back close to home (he’s currently 3hrs away from her, and the threat is to move him 20 min away) if his current job plans don’t work out.

As his twin sister, I’m reluctant to get in the middle of their dynamic - but it is so dysfunctional and it is just not ok with me the way she treats him. She’s setting him up to fail and I’m caught across the country.

All I want to do is help him. But I’m not sure how to strike a balance between helping him with positive support/love/affection/etc. and also staying firm on some of the more negative consequences of his behavior due to his LD….all while flying in the face of my Mother’s wishes.

Gosh - there’s so much more to the story. Mostly, I just feel really alone in this and am glad to have found these boards.

Best,
AM