i’m wondering how to build self confidence in my daughter when i don’t have much. she worries about what everyone thinks of her. she a nervous wreck over starting school next week. we met her teacher today. her classroom looks like a giant playroom. picnic table and all. it seemed to help some. she said she hopes to have some friends this year. although she still seems nervous over it. she was second guessing herself tonight. we tell her how much we love her. i am trying to be more positive with her. i guess i’m looking for suggestions on confidence builders that other people use. any advice would be appreciated
Re: self confidence
Greetings Alice,
I just went through this with my daughter. A couple weeks before school started, I accompanied my daughter to registration and walked to her various classrooms with her. We then went back 2dys before school started and rewalked the route for each scheduled classroom. She said this made her feel more secure. Then we talked - alot. I assured her that those first day school jitters are very normal for EVERY student, not just those with learning problems. I shared with her my various experiences with school jitters and how the first day of school was ALWAYS better than I anticipated. We talked about various problems that might occur and what to do it they did. I pointed out her various strengths and how she used these strengths in other situations she handled well. This helped to reassure her that she is capable and strong. Was she still nervous…yes, but not as bad as before. By-the-way, the first day of school was Wednesday and she said it went much better than anticipated !
Blessings, momo
Re: self confidence
thanx for the responses. and to answer sara m is 8.
we had open house on thursday i think we were both very nervous she and i are not liked much by our lovely principal. best ex. we walked right by her and she ignored us my m grabbed me and moved to the opposite side so she wouldn’t be near her pretty bad when an 8 year old is afraid of her principal. oh well her teacher seems to be very nice i told her i would like to have a conference and she was very receptive i swear my mom is helping me from above. because we got another new teacher this year that is new to our school.
our room looks like a giant playroom i just hope it’s not to distracting to her.
m is looking forward to it but is still a little nervous she seemed to like her new teacher she admitted to being afraid of who she might get well i of the choices moved to another grade. the gentkleman we wanted when up a grade so next yuear for him. any way her room is in areas. she even has a picnic table umbrella and all. and it’s a station to work at if they get done with their task.
i can’t tell you what a relief it is knowing and meeting her new teacher not meaning i know her personally although i hope to. she says every year is a new start and to think positive which makes me fell really good inside.
to answer the other post i honestly don’t want to go in to theschool any more than i have to. i really don’t want to be there i saw alot of the teachers from last year and they were very nice they also know how i am received there. and hope all goes well for m this year.
well i’m rambling so thanks again
alicef
You don’t say how old your daughter is or if she faces any particular challenges that undermine her self -confidence. We all have confidence issues - some people and some children show it more than others.
Building confidence comes from just the things you’re doing. Speaking to a child in a positive way and showing positive feelings. Other things might be trying to make time to invite other children over and supporting her with school work as much as possible. Children’s friendships don’t always just happen - sometimes they need to be strategized a bit.
Wait a few weeks and then maybe give your child’s teacher a call. A teacher myself, if a parent asks me to suggest possible “playmates” for a child, I’m happy to do that. Your daughter’s teacher might be happy to do that as well.
Good luck.