sibling rivalry

This is more a question of has anyone else dealt with this?

I have two adhd kids, one is inattentive, the other hyper. Both middle schoolers.
My younger hyper son is also a mostly A, occasional B student. He is becoming more aware of his older brother’s difficulties in school, he’s asked me questions which I have answered honestly. Which is to say, that his brother’s adhd affects him differently and that he had poor teaching in his first two grades and had to catch up. He gets support from special ed in regular classes.

The rivalry thing came up this past week when the younger brother was bringing up his good grades in contrast to older brother’s average and less than average grades. Basically saying he was better than his brother because his grades were better.

I had a discussion about this with them both. That all people have strengths and weaknesses, the younger one has strengths in academics, but my older son although doing ok academically, has strengths in other areas, the main ones being the ability to stick with something even if it is hard or boring, the ability to organize his space and pay attention to details, he doesn’t procrastinate and he is not afraid to work hard. (he once mowed 3 yards in one day last summer) These are strengths that my younger son would do well to cultivate. I told them that at the end of the day, in the work world, those non academic strengths are considered just as valuable as the ability to make straight A’s.

At the end of my discussion, I reminded them that adhd affects all of us differently, dad still has a hard time reading but works hard at it and is very successful. On the other hand my ability to read well and fast does not help me in the least when it comes to getting my housework done.(mom and dad are adhd too, one of each)

I am just hoping I got through to my younger son. No one else razzes my older son about his school problems, I am not about to have it in my own home.
Thanks for listening!
Amy