Hello Everyone,
It has been awhile since I visited this site and first want to thank all those who have helped with questions and answerswe have had. My daughter is the one writing to all of you about the many problems that we are experiencing. And from the answers we are not alone in the quest to get our son,her brother the proper help. I want to thank her for her tiredless efforts on her brothers behalf.
We are in the process of changing schools with our son to a technical school as our son is wonderful with his hands, and “head” when it comes to tasks that others take for granted. As long as the “book & written” work is minimual he is on the ball, a hard worker very dedicated to what is before him. My questions is this for those of you who have gone this route with a learning diabled child, a child that has C.A.P.D. what problems did you run into changing schools? Also how receptive was the school in helping your child? I realize times in education have been changing, but moving our son to a new school with problems to begin new, I wonder if we should be looking into a school with a program already in progress for success. How much should we expect for our son to be successful? He still has a possitive attitude about school, so we do not want to lose that, of course he has days that he would rather stay in bed, but all in all he is willing to accept the help that is given even now that we know it is not what he really needs. I could go on and on but for now I hope someone will answer, and also to keep answering my daughter she has been wonderful in researching every avenue possible for her brother.
thank you to all who answer.
R
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Hey!
guess I sirprised you!!!! thought it would be interesting to see what kinda feed back we got! Plus I haven’t been on in awhile and think I could use the support for all that we are going through and about to deal with in the upcoming school year. wish me luck
MOM
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Hi Rachel,
I don’t have any answers for you. My son is still young.
But I think it’s very important that we focus on our children’s strenghts and interests (LD or not!) and encourage them in that direction.
I think the problems you might face in changing schools would depend upon the school and how willing they are to work with you. Have you gone over to talk with them? If not, make an appointment and bring a long list of questions. Have your son come up with questions as well. Also, he may want to attend the meeting as well.
The idea of having your son studying something he’s good at sounds very positive to me. I’m guessing he’s an older child (teen or young adult) and is more than ready to start focusing on educating to his strengths.
Best of luck to you! :-)
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I have severe CAPD myself and just started a new school last year. I went from 5 years of a special ld school into a small private traditional prep school with a hundred students and the classes are under twelve students. What difficulties he may encounter will vary depending his needs and the school itself. For me the class sizes made a major difference with a smaller class there were less noise distractions. I could concentrate on what the teacher was saying, not the other kids. Though I usually reclarify the homework with the the teacher before I leave, just so I don’t miss anything. I have a lot of trouble transitioning between tasks sometimes, again often having to clarify directions. I have to write everything down, otherwise I forget it. When studying I have to be in a quiet area, if unadvoidalbe I always have earplugs. I also have a tutor to help keep me on track of things. Things that should be easy are often long and tiresome for me, CAPD will do that do you. Your brain receiving more information than your processing can handle. It took a long time to get use too, but I’m happy were I am now and even a high honors student. To me its worth the work, but I have to spend twice as long to do the same task sometimes.
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Hello Laura,
yes, my son is 14 and will be entering high school this coming school calendar year. The school seems to be up on all it “has” to do and I have had two other children go to this particular school. I am hoping that with all that I know and all that is good for my son will meet and things will just melt together and he will succeed.
The questions are a great idea one that we have spoke about and will probably try and do just as the school gets started.
Thanks for answering, I fell strengths in numbers for all of us that have children with different learning difficulties.
Rachel
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Hi Kristen,
Thanks for the return message. I will be reading what you wrote to my son who is 14 and entering the 9th grade as stated in a new school. WE have been told that the clasroon size will be small and he seems to like that idea…I do to.
So far we have learned so much about CAPD that it is making sense why somethings are so hard for him to do, or for him to hear correctly. I have 3 other children and we have pretty much decided that my older son 22 has CAPD, not the ADD that the school said he had. We had a tough time getting him through high school and with what I have learned from t he diagnoses of our younger son I know now why his older brother had such a difficult time.
Thanks for helping I really appreaciate all the help
Rachel
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Hello Laura,
Thanks for returning the message. I to do believe that showing my son that he is good in other area’s of life can be a real booster. But as always what mothers do best is worry about the future and what our children will be doing when that time comes. He has been able to reach beyond the negative vibes that he gets from those who are there to help him in school that sometimes I feel like I am chasing air! For those that are facing years of hardship with a school that continually tell s you,” well you can tell us you know your child the best” I say keep telling these professionals “YES I DO” so when do you intend to listen and help.
thanks.
RachelLaura wrote:
>
> Hi Rachel,
> I don’t have any answers for you. My son is still young.
>
> But I think it’s very important that we focus on our
> children’s strenghts and interests (LD or not!) and encourage
> them in that direction.
>
> I think the problems you might face in changing schools would
> depend upon the school and how willing they are to work with
> you. Have you gone over to talk with them? If not, make an
> appointment and bring a long list of questions. Have your son
> come up with questions as well. Also, he may want to attend
> the meeting as well.
>
> The idea of having your son studying something he’s good at
> sounds very positive to me. I’m guessing he’s an older child
> (teen or young adult) and is more than ready to start
> focusing on educating to his strengths.
>
> Best of luck to you! :-)
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Hello Kristen,
I can not begin to thank you for the message. You can be sure that I will be reading your response to our son. He is the greatest kid I can only hope that some day someone in the educational field will see just how hard this kid can work. I was always taught that books, paper, tests, etc are part of the total package not one makes or breaks a personal, when one of the puzzle pieces are missing it is hard to get it back in order. But as long as our son is in school and ready for life I will be fighting for what is his. We all try and show him that he can and will be a successful person as he grows. He has opened up a great deal to his older sister, they are very close, she is going to school to become an advocate for special needs children. With this fight in her and his determination to succeed I am sure we have a good year coming..
Recently with the findings of CAPD, we have had our son tested with a Neuorphyscholigist, test results are being processed now. With this power of information we are obtaining I do not intend to have someone in the educational field tell me that our son can handle work on a “full” load, or that if he just tries harder it will all come together. I will go in and educate these educators that CAPD does exist and how to teach children that are not just, in their eyes, Lazy.
Did you ever experience any of this when you were in school? How long have you know about CAPD?
thanks
Rachel
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Hi Rachel
I also have a 15 year old son w/apd, although we live in Mass.
He has done nicely w/support at the highschool, but we had our trying times.
Any questions you have, please feel free to write to me.
I am a veteran in this field, dealing w/the schools etc.
Good Luck
MaryEllen
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Hello Maryellen:
Thanks for your reply, as i have not been online in awhile I missed your response and are now just getting back in the swing! thanks.
WE recently had our son Nuerophys tested, a lengthy process of which we have not gotten the written final results. We did have our meeting at which time we were told the results of the testing, one such recommendation was medication. Because he also has ADD (noted in the testing) we were told that meds would help his concertration, I am not so sure th is is the way to go. Why can’t the school just teach him with what we are telling them he needs. Will they just say without the meds we can not teach your son, it is not a cure all and I personally do not like it. Have you come across this problem?
thanks
Rachel
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Hi Rachel
No they never pused meds, he was not a disruption in class.
It has come to my attention that many states do not recognize this as LD.
Anyway, a technical school is an easier way, but will he qualify for college
this way?
We almost did this as well, instead decided to push the envelope and make them work!!
Write back any time, do you live in mass. or new england?
Bye
I won’t answer since you are my mom!! I just logged on an son “Son with CAPD” I am always looking to read what others have to say, as you well know, and I thought it was interesting to see your name!!
Thanks, Love…
K.