My child has gotten herself in a situation that has 3 girls and 6 parents upset. A child who has difficulty supressing her obscene language, had told my child to tell another child that she was an a.. h…, because that child was jealous of her. Now I don’t know why my child would repeat such a message and we talked about the inappropriateness of it. I am still in shock that she did it. The receiver of the message nor her mother were mad at my child, but I had my child apologize anyway. The mother of the receiver of the message says that this other child with the foul mouth does this often and that her mother doesn’t believe she does it. When I was talking to the mother of the receiver of the message I said that the kids should go to the solution room at school, where they can sort it out, as an adult would need to help. But getting the kids to ask and getting an adult to listen when it is almost time to go in for recess can be a problem. All the kids involved go to different social skills classes, and what I hear from my daughter is that they are knitting nice scarves there. This one girl has been a previous problem for my child, and I had my child seperated from her so they wouldn’t be in the same regular 6th grade class. I am wondering what else can we do, and what should we be asking the school to do as, this girl is going to have one heck of a time next year at middle school if she keeps it up?
I think it’s good you had your daughter apologize regardless of how or why it happened. I personally believe that learning how to apologize or try and “set things right” (regardless of who caused a situation) is a positive thing.
Unfortunately, there are always people similar to the little girl you’ve decribed and the good thing is this situation has given you an opportunity to teach your daughter how to deal with it. Sometimes good learning experiences are not “good” experiences.
If it were me, I’d try to have lots of conversation, discussion, role play and brainstorming of ideas about how to deal with it (or similar situations). I hope that helps. :-)