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LITTLE BORTHER WITH ADHD

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Hey, before I begin I want to say I love my little brother with all my heart. I am 26 and he is 8. He has ADHD and his behaviors drive me CRAZY!! I am not used to this sort of thing. I am an accountant, so I don’t deal with this type of thing at work or anything. I was in college when my step mother had my borther. Therefore, I was not around him very often. However now that I have moved to a house near home, I am asked to babysit him, which noramally I would not mind. However, his behaviors are SOOO BAD. I CAN NOT handle him at times. Sometimes I just let him do what he wants because I feel I have no control. He bothers the dogs to the point that they want to bite him. He tears things off of my walls. He is constantly screaming obsenities at me or my husband.
I guess what I am asking for here is a little advice on how to help him control his behaviors. Also, are there any techniques to help me stay calm when dealing with him? ANY HELP WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

Submitted by Anonymous on Sat, 04/10/2004 - 10:37 PM

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Structure. When he comes (and you are a wonderful big sister to take on this task) give him structure. What does he like to do? Does he watch films? If so, rent an approrpriate film and watch it with him. Will he do puzzles or Legos? Have those in the house and do Legos with him.

This kind of extreme ADHD can’t be left on its own. Passive babysitting can only lead to frustration on both your parts.

If though he cannot settle enough to watch a film or build with you with Legos or go out for ice cream - and walk not bother the dogs with you - then he can’t come. It’s also fine to explain the difficulties you’re having to your stepmother and father and ask them if he ever gets so frustrated at home that he screams obscenities at them.

Is he angry possibly at his parents for going out and leaving him? That good question can be a part of a discussion with your parents and/or with him.

Good luck.

Submitted by Anonymous on Sat, 07/10/2004 - 8:20 PM

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what helps my brither is I put a sing-a-long on and he sits down and falls asleep watching it

Submitted by Anonymous on Sat, 07/10/2004 - 8:21 PM

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[quote=”gracnat”]what helps my brother is I put a sing-a-long on and he sits down and falls asleep watching it[/quote]

Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 07/15/2004 - 3:41 PM

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please see a psychologist
and a pscych to help with analysis and medications
if necessary.
give him a basketball.
or any ball
lesd him to sports
to spend his extra energy.
i di with my boy
and give him lots of love
and patience
a tender loving care
God bless

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