Okay,seems I didn’t ellivate enough of my kids stress. Still worried about facing the music. I finally told him,listen if you can’t do it on your own,I give you until friday to go see your teacher,and I am bringing your dad into your room right now..
In walks Dad,the nervous laughing starts. He tells him everything. That’s it? Dad says. “this is what has made you nuts for the past week? Why would you do this to yourself?” “look son,the only thing I have to say is,if you want to look at a naked women,come to me first.And putting it on your laptop,now that was boneheaded”. “yeah,I know” “well your gonna have to tell DR. Stark”. “yeah,I know,mom is giving me until friday”.”okay,is that all?” “yes,Dad” As Dad turned to walk out of his room,he turned back,and said,”son,I am proud of you,I love you,and I love your sense of right and wrong, don’t let your friends talk you into something that you know is wrong,okay? You can stay cool,just say,no,it’s not my thing”” you got it,dad”.
you both have a wonderful relationship with your kids
and that is something that many families take for granted. In our house, our oldest, who is an adult brings all her friends over that need help…It amazes my husband and I to realize that many of her adult friends don’t have parents that they can talk to about anything and everything. We are the “cool” parents but we just treat them as we would treat another and that is with respect…We do our fair share of listening and guiding them for a shortwhile to get back on their feet and off they go again..
One of the most precious things in life is truth and being able to judge right from wrong. Another gift is the ability to be able to love unconditionally even when you have been wronged and also a big part of that is learning to love yourself when you have done something you are ashamed of.
Kudos to your family and I am glad that everything is working out fine.. :-)
Re: okay the play by play
Bad day Eh? That bad that someone who’s always ready to go to bat for others can’t take some time to get some strokes? Try some St. John’s Wort in herbal tea. It’ll do wonders for you.
Re: okay the play by play
ld issues involve more than just acadamia. Responding to life situations often come to play and it’s kind of nice to hear about the good stuff and not more bitching and grinding about the problems with school districts; at least some may think so anyway.
For those who care, they respond in kind… for those who don’t, why waste the time to post? Certainly taking mean spirited pot shots won’t take the air out of a parent’s sail when something like this comes along; didn’t you know that?
Can’t help but be reminded of an old ‘friend’ Peeved :(
Hang in there Socks and spouse, “it’s all good” :)
Andy
Re: Ha ha ha ha - Joanne
(Knee slapping) Boy that was a good one, not. Sounds like somebody’s a widdle bit cwanky today. Maybe you logged on the the wrong website. Try www.witchforaday.com
So sorry you can’t appreciate the escapades of socks and the boys. Me? I love hearing how other Moms and Dads deal with the real life parenting
issues of their kids, academically, legally and life skills-wise.
Re: technically...
Technically, it’s a public board for “parenting a child with ld”; which includes, but is not limited to… parenting issues outside of the world of acadamia. Of course you are entitled to an opinion, input and comment. One simply questions why you would take the time to make a mean, crass comment to a parent who is having a positive experience with their ld child, that’s all. Why waste the time reading their post, let alone critique the activity? Then to sign with a “?” leaves one to question ?????
Re: we share good and bad here
Joanne,
If you can’t say somethin’ nice don’t say nothin’ at all.
We have enough headaches and stressful days to not be able to share our pride and good days.
Re: okay the play by play
Socks,
Your post made me smile. I well remember my own son’s worry whenever he did something he feared was terribly wrong. It’s really true that these kids often beat themselves up far worse than any punishment an adult might mete out.
Sounds like you have a great kid there.
wow...
Dear Joanne,
I apologize that my post gave you so much stress. It was an update to an earlier one in which I posted about my son,who was having significant stress over a life situation. Being a parent of an LD child,the drama is neverending,it can be what you make of it. I try to look at the positive things,and the irony.
It never ceases to amaze me the emotions raising an LD child illicates,I suppose I also understand the frustration if I was looking for answers only to read something that makes no bit of sense unless you read the previous post.
Fact is, being the parent,I have learned to accept adversity,differing opinions,and down right rudeness. God knows I spent many hours dealing with those very issues. I used be worried that I would make people mad,that I would seem unreasonable,that I would not be liked. Now? My kids are 12 and 13 did too many damn years in public schools to even concern myself with that anymore.
The irony is opinions are like…,well you know where I am going,everybody’s got one,right?
I suppose I have entered a different era in the task of raising my kids. I am not often faced with what to do about the school or how do I fight for services,now I am faced with things I still wind up being not so acustomed to dealing with. Now that’s irony. The latter I wouldn’t have trouble dealing with. My kids will have me trained yet. Again,sorry for any misunderstanding,I meant no stress,Peace.
We all do. We all have things that are important to us.
Everybody is entitled to their opinion. You and me included. My point was that let’s focus on what’s important, the kids, and let’s not get so defensive right away. There are a lot of defensive shots taken at others all the time. Quick shots back at someone aren’t necessary and don’t solve anything and can cause a lot of unnecessary bad feelings. I was just trying to settle things down. (I guess this is another example.) Everyone should be able to use this board and not be offended. There are a lot of good things that go on here. Let’s focus on that.
Re: wow...
I liked reading about what’s happening in the life of your son. Helps you to realize there is life beyond school.
And as far as thinking this is “our BB”, well it belongs to all parents, and on this BB many have become friends, friends talk about everything. This BB has done more to help me then lots of my face to face friends. How many face to face friends can know exactly what you’re going through, not many. but here they do.
Socks, your story reminds me of one about my son. Hubby and I were both at work, son was here with 23 yr old step brother, they
were riding the 4-wheeler. My son had a little accident, and the cycle went through the garage door, without him. He worried himself to death until dad got home, he wouldn’t even tell him talked the step brother into it. After Dad found out he was ok and gave him the lecture about what could have happened, but the garage door could be replaced, just glad he wasn’t hurt. Son looked at him and said “can I still go deer hunting Monday”. He has worried himself to death and had already figured out his punishment. All for nothing, he was punished, it was an accident. By the way, he killed his first deer on that Monday too. LOL
I love it!!! My daughter is a bit like your son. They make themselves suffer so much there is no point adding to it!!!
Beth