Hi, I know school is almost out ,but my daughter has problems at her school in Ohio.
My daughter is a special child with learning disablities.She has no behavior problems
and is on the A and B honor roll in 4th grade Thanks to her regular teacher. Sound Good. Well the problem is my daughter gets notes home about what she is wearing and I got a note today from the school nurse stating that my daughter is becoming a young lady and needs to wear a bra that it will be embrassed to her and the other students. it’s the way she word it.( she not yet deveoped) I talk to the prinpal about all the issue about my daughter, but i feel I don’t get anywhere with her. I feel she is a target at her school because she has special problem and stand out.
She hardly has no friends but one. Other kid say she says bad things and she real don’t they like to see her in trouble. My question is how can I get a advocate or a spokeperson for my LD child for the school system.Her LD teacher is no help. I feel that they are picking and picking on my daughter for no reason at all. I’m concern about my daughter selfsteem. I’m a very concern mother and don’t know what to do I feel I’m the only spokeperson for my daughter and it would be nice for a spokemon that has the training and knowledge for her and What rights do we have? By the way the LD program only has about 5 kids in the LD program. and the other parents don’t care like I do. My daughter has a speech problem and really can’t express herself . She told the prinpal she hates this school because all of the picking.I would love to send her to a private school ,but can’t afford it. Please help Thanks Kris
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Kris, are you in Central Ohio, by any chance? I could point you to some resources if you are…
jao
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A few thoughts… You obviously care about your child and want to see her succeed socially and academically. Try to take a step back and see how your child might be percieved by her peers. Is there a school counselor for you to talk to? Do you have a close friend who will be honest with you (the kind of friend who will tell you that you look fat if you really do?!) I think what the nurse is trying to tell you is that they way your child dresses makes her stand out as different and a target for teasing. Ask an adult friend to give you her honest opinion on this. Visit the school and look at what others her age/size are wearing. I don’t mean that you have to buy her the latest fashions. At our school we have occasionally contacted parents about these sensitive issues (body odor is another one!) not because we want to pick on students but because we truly want to help them socially— kids can be incredibly cruel, it doesn’t make it right but it is almost impossible to stop it. It sounds as if your daughter might need help with social skills— can you put this in her IEP or ask the counselor to work with her in a group? The speech/language pathologist can sometimes work on this as well. Does the teacher or counselor need to work with the rest of the class on accepting differences? Realize that whatever makes her a target at this school will probably follow her to other schools, so going to a private school might not help anyway. Try to help your child become involved in activities with others outside of school where she will be accepted— look for something that she has a special interest in. Even something like visiting senior citizens who are often thrilled to chat with young people.
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I don’t know about wearing a bra…my own daughter only reluctantly wore one in 6th grade…but Rover is right about kid’s standing out because of their clothes. We moved to Florida when my daughter was in 4th grade from a much more conservative area of the country. My daughter’s clothes were much more traditional than her classmates and that and her social issues (she is not LD but had become almost an elective mute because of her unhappiness at being in Florida) made her a target for teasing.
Beth
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Yes, close to Dayton on I-70 Thanks for the help Kris
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Thanks for you comments , but when I recieve the note I had my daughter only friend
mother and ask her what she thought of it . she told me that it was wrong and unprofessially written. She a nurse herself . I have another daughter who is a 7 yr old and goes to the same school has alot of friends and she has no LD problems and she fit right in because she consider normal but it sad that adults and children can’t accept someone who is a little different. She has no social skill because no one wants to talk to her because she talk funny so that what they say. We live in a Upscale county and we dress nicely if not they will be teased.Thanks for your posting Kris
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One place to start is the Finding Help section of this web site. It gives you the name of organizations in Ohio. Also, check you local phone book for learning disability resources ( clinics, schools). Ask these people if they can refer you to an advocate or parent advocate. Is there another elementary school within your district that would be more accepting of your daughter’s needs? You are right to want to look for more for your daughter and yourself. A place where you feel comfortable and accepted.