I feel like giving up. I have a soon to be 14 yr old who does nothing right. I have tried to help hime get structured with every trick on every ADHD /LD site and nothing works. I put notes into his lunch box to remind hime to take his medication and yet he comes home with the envelop not even touched. new school and I have no idea what the routine is. This year I decided to let my husband step to the plate. every question I ask -he has no answer. I am tired and frustrated and want to just give up on this child. He is in another world and my husband right along with him. He forgets his Ritalin every day and comes home boucing off the walls. His afternoons at school must be awful. We already have a parent teacher meeting and we haven’t been in school 3 weeks. He is very immature and dependent. I just can’t take another day.
Re: lying
He’s learned that just saying “yes” may get him out of a lecture, at least for the moment. ADHD = impulsivity, including impulsively answering a question before he’s really thought about it and the consequences. He may not even be listening, just like we accuse our spouses of doing when they’re watching football. I’d stop asking— if you have evidence that he skipped the meds, deal with that in a matter of fact way. Better yet, talk to his Dr. about some of the longer acting stimulants that can be taken once a day. School lunchrooms can be noisy, hectic, maybe long lines waiting for food, and what 14 year-old wants his peers to see him taking pills?
Clearly you have other issues with him that frustrate you—sounds like you both would benefit from working with a counselor to better manage the ADHD. Ask the school to work on a behavior plan. Does he qualify for special education or a 504 plan under Other Health Impaired?
Re: lying
He’s learned that just saying “yes” may get him out of a lecture, at least for the moment. ADHD = impulsivity, including impulsively answering a question before he’s really thought about it and the consequences. He may not even be listening, just like we accuse our spouses of doing when they’re watching football. I’d stop asking— if you have evidence that he skipped the meds, deal with that in a matter of fact way. Better yet, talk to his Dr. about some of the longer acting stimulants that can be taken once a day. School lunchrooms can be noisy, hectic, maybe long lines waiting for food, and what 14 year-old wants his peers to see him taking pills?
Clearly you have other issues with him that frustrate you—sounds like you both would benefit from working with a counselor to better manage the ADHD. Ask the school to work on a behavior plan. Does he qualify for special education or a 504 plan under Other Health Impaired?
Re: lying
He is special ed according to our school district. Unfortunately, they are not supporteing his education now, or ever. He is in a small, private school for kids with ADD and LD. I am still trying to figure out their system. Thanks for you response. We have tried behavior mode with little success.
Re: lying
There are long acting versions of Ritalin that in a case like this can be taken. Those long acting versions make unnecessary the noon dose. Check with your doctor about ‘slow-release’ Ritalin.
In most schools, however, seeing that he gets his dose would be the responsibility of the school nurse who would also keep his medication in her office for him.
The main thing is - when I ask my son”Did you take it” he lies and says yes. Whenever I ask him a question- he always says he did what her was supposted to, then i find out he didn’t. Frustrated