I wish I had found this site years ago! My 10 year old daughter won’t wear jeans, etc. and we had so many cloths that never got worn. But after I got an attitude adjustment (it was so frustrating in the beginning!!), I can now buy the particular underpants from Limited Too that she likes, the particular socks from the Gap that she likes, and even the grandparents have now all successfully purchased soft jackets, etc. We had a daily routine of brushing with a special little sponge with bristles on it (our daughter loved the attention, and then she enjoyed doing it herself). She would also jump into her cloths and then YELL for me to QUICKLY “absorb” her. I would squeeze and rub her as tightly as I could (fun!) until she felt comfortable in the clothes.
I’m happy to report that just yesterday, we went out with her grandmother to buy a new dress (not a situation I would normally put us all through), and my daughter announced, “MOM, I don’t need anyone to absorb me anymore!” It made me realize that we’ve really come along way, and it was a combination of her sensitivity decreasing, as well as all of us embracing that this sensitivity is real, not her fault, and we now make realistic clothing choices. (the dress we tried on was silky smooth on the inside.)
best,
kathryn
Re: clothing
Hi, I just moved this from the old thread.
That sounds wonderful to see such growth and I can really see how that “absorbing” would work. My son and I use hugs to overcome some of his difficult behaviour hugs are a really powerful thing. Do you think it also relates to things like being sensitive to sounds?
It is also so right what you say about accepting it as real and such a relief to be able to do so within yourself.
It IS a great web site isn’t it I just found it too.
Years before I figured out we were dealing with ADD, I spent hours trying to find and eliminate the “strings” in my toddler son’s socks. It drove me crazy. I read your post and thought about the daily string search. It’s good to hear about your daughter’s progress!