Hello

Having a learning difference is not ‘bad’. Thinking that is your first mistake.

Many people have learning differences. The adults who post here are not ashamed of their children’s learning differences. They are trying to share information to help their children meet the challenges of their learning differences.

It would be great to say “oh, my kid is perfect and doesn’t have any problems learning anything. It’s all easy for her.”

Except that it wouldn’t be true.

Learning some things is harder for some people than others. The ones who go on to be successful are usually the ones who face it, who don’t pretend the problem isn’t there. Sometimes they are successful because they are so mad they have to prove they can do things anyway - but the anger takes its toll.

Exceeding Expectations is a good book about people who were told they had lds and went on to be very successful. IT’s worth reading.

You still aren’t understanding!! I’m not saying kids are perfect or that they don’t have a problem, I’m just saying it’s wrong for a person to say that someone else is disabled!!!! Because the only definition I know of disabled is that it doesn’t work anymore and unless a person is dead, they work fine. But if none of you still get what i’ve finished typing, a person can’t be disabled, however an object is disabled when it no longer functions and it will never work again! It’s like you’re calling kids or anyone who has a disability stupid or retarded, when you write, type or say ” my child is ld ” or ” my child is learning disabled “! It’s sad to say but this is true, the stuff you’re saying, it will never make sense to you why I find this so offensive and mean because you don’t have a disability so you’ll never understand. Disabilitity or no disability, a person is still a person, people with disabilties just have a harder time doing or learning things, they’re not disabled, it’s not like you can go get them fixed, because people with disabilities aren’t ruined or broken, and they certainly don’t have pieces missing or that need replacing, they’re just living, breathing people. People aren’t disabled, but they have disabilities.

I don’t like people who think they can tell me how I should think, and my thinking methods obviously differ from yours.

Escuse me, but these people on the LD OnLine Social Skills and LD bulletin board think they’re kids are disabled, and I assure you, I don’t believe a disability is bad, but i’m not so sure what they think, because at age 14, I learned there was nothing wrong with me, I just struggle with my work and my ability to learn it and now I’m fifteen and I’m praying that these kids don’t find out what they’re parents think of them, because if the kids find out, well I know I’d hate you, so watch your words, just because your words don’t matter to you that doesn’t mean it won’t bother your kids.

Darling, doesn’t your own mother post to these boards? I seem to recall a mother who at least used to post often to these boards whose daughter’s name was Sasha. I have a student named Sasha but she’s not 14 yet.

It’s a lovely name in any case. As you say, sweetheart, you’re not so sure what they think. As you’re not sure, why do you leap to such negative thoughts? Negativity takes up more energy than it creates.

These dear parents want to help their children not struggle so much in school. So they post questions here hoping other parents with experience can offer them advice. If you read these posts, they’re filled with concern, caring and much love for their children.

It’s so very sweet that you show so much concern and that you take your precious time to visit this board when you must have much school work to do. It’s so sad that you feel you would feel hate - and at such a young age. Such a strong word.

I’m sure all the parents who read the board will take your advice and your strong, strong words much to heart and consider what you’ve said very carefully.

I’m not sure how they meant it, or what they meant, all I know is how I perceived it and how I felt. It made me mad and cofused because here they have kids, the most wonderful thing or things in the world, and read how they’re treating them, they’re being negative and not thinking about how it could affect them, they’re refering to their kids as things. I’m just saying what I feel, I’m telling the truth, what I’m telling you comes from my heart, now how could my heart be negative.

When we’re mad and confused, our hearts can turn hard and negative - even if for a few moments.

Darling, you’ve stumbled onto a bulletin board where adults post. Certainly no one ever meant to hurt you. If I stumbled onto a bulletin board where students post comments about teachers, perhaps my feelings would be hurt.

The children of the adults who post here do not read these boards, dear. It is very rare for anyone other than a parent or a teacher to post to these boards.

Sometimes you like to be with your friends and talk. Just your friends. You don’t invite your parents to join you in those moments. Adults are no different. The bulletin board that you’ve stumbled onto is one of those moments. Now that everyone knows you’re here, they will certainly need to regard your sensitive feeings and consider them seriously.

Sa sha

I have to agree with you. My son who is 10 dislikes when someone refers to him as disabled. He takes it literally also. I am sorry all the other posts on these boards have not been sensitive to your feelings. He rather be told he has learning differences or maybe that his cp or apd or add is effecting his learning or attitude in some way. He would rather hear the specific name of the disability you are referrring to not that he is disabled because like you Sa sha he does not consider himself needing repair. He feels God has made him this way for a reason and has accepted his limitations.

Lisa in Nj