Hi .. I was wondering how Do I get the teacher of my son’s class deal with my son with ADHD without geting he said and the other kids that he get’s into a fight with say. It is my son’s fault no matter what. I’m having problems with the principal on this. Everytime my son get’s into a fight and his teacher doesn’t see it I get it was your son’s fault. I ask my son and he swear’s up and down he didn’t start it. That kids were calling him names. We have talked to his teacher about the name calling and we get we’ll deal with it. but it still happens. Anyone have ideas about how to deal with this?
Michele
Re: How do I ?
When they say it’s your son’s fault, what do they want you to do? I’d move the conversation away from finding blame. What’s the point? What will that accomplish?
Where do the fights start is what I’d ask them? On the playground? How many teachers are out on the playground when the children are out? Properly supervised children shouldn’t be able to get into fights.
I’d advise my son to play near the teachers at recess to keep himself out of blame’s way. I’d also advise him to turn a deaf ear to the name-calling. Sadly many schools see name-calling as a small matter and do too little to discourage it.
Good luck.
Michele,
Unfortunately, there is probably only one way to end this problem, and that is to take your son out of this class. Apparently the teacher simply does not like him, and she chooses to blame him for all the fights. Now, I will add, fighting in class is not to be accepted, and if he is always involved in the fights, then you can see how she comes to that conclusion. I’d have to ask you, what is being done for the ADHD (is he on medication), how old is your son, and is he on an IEP or 504 plan?
One more thing. These kids have learned how to set your son off. He needs some counseling to help him learn to ignore the name calling so that he does not fight in response. Eventually the name calling will stop when it doesn’t get a reaction.
Janis