lack of social life

Get into group activities. NYC is cool. Millions of people.

Ball,

Thank you for responding. Can you be more sprcific?

Omer

Something like a theatre group or a bowling team Guardian Angels, Hells Angels (just kidding) Chess club, bridge club Rangers fan club ect.. What ever floats your boat. Check out the clubs. Become a volunteer at a hospital or nursing home.

Ball,

It seems that you are very resourcefull. I am seriously would like to use
your suggestions however I need more directions. At present i am only
member in origami club. We meet once or twice a month. There is not
much of an opportunity to develop social life there. It is mostly for
either very young children or retitees. I am very into this hobby and i wish
I could find more people my age. As for the othe clubs, I went to
a chess club in manhattan. again the same story I found there mostly
senior citizens. I am realy looking for places where I can meet young
adults my age and eventually form friendly relationship. I am not
good at sport activity but i would try the Bowling team guardian angle. Tell me
more about them. How you reach them? how do I find different type of clubs?
How a volunteer job in nursing home or hospital can help me in that direction.
Tell me also about your experience. I realized from reading your letter
you posted on the test result that you have one good advantage. You are
verbal and articulate. I am almost the opposite of you. I scored high in the
thngs you scored low and the other way around..

Omer

Omer—

Are you really interested in volunteering at a hospital or nursing home? Many people hate that type of work. If you really are interested find the hospital (or nursing home) you want to volenteer at. Most people pick one they were at some time and liked or one closest to their home. Call and ask if they have a volunteer office or coordinator. Most do, although they might call it a different name. Ask if you can volunteer. Most will talk to you about what type of work you would like to do. If you don’t know, just tell them that and tell them what you are good at…they will help find a place for you. Before you call, think about how many hours you can give them each week or month. They will need to know that. Once you and they think they have found something you might be good at they will probably ask you to come in a complete paperwork. They will do a complete background check on you so will need your promission. They will probably ask for referances, people who know you well. They probably will ask to take a blood sample from you to check and make sure you are healthy.

Ball gave you many good ideas. Here are a few more..

Have you checked into places of worship? Many have young adult groups.

Check your phone book for “Welcome Wagon.” This is a group that exists to help people when they first move into an area. If you find them call them and let them know you just moved in. Ask what the best way would be to find social groups. A friend called the local Welcome Wagon and told them he had just moved in. They sent him maps of the area and a list of community events.

Is there a community center near you? Check the phone book. If there is, you may wish to visit it. Even if it doesn’t have anything going on that interests you, they normally have connections with other groups

Barb

Is VISTA still in operation? Vista is kind of like a domestic Peace Corps.

I worked for Habitat for Humanity. I met some very great people there.

Omer-

You could also check out soup kitchens if you are interested in volunteering with the homeless at all, churches are always looking for people who are interested in feeding the hungry. If you are interested in working with homeless people the Coalition to Help Fight Homelessness is always looking for people; they have several volunteer nights throughout the month. Let me know if you are interested.

Go to a volunteer website; one good one is VolunteerMatch.com; whatever volunteer work you are interested in they probably will have a listing for.

I’ve found that New York can be a very lonely city if you are not involved in it. So I recommend that you get involved in something you are interested in, something that you enjoy.

Omer-try checking out some churches in your area, many will have college/young adult groups you can join.