parents w/adhd helping their children w/adhd

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i would just like some info about parents w/adhd helping their children w/adhd with homework. i get upset at myself because i have a hard time helping them. They are getting extra help at school (that has help them soooooo much). But when they bring it all home and i have to explain it to them, ( i am also dyslexic) i have to read it over and over just to under stand what they already know. i just want to be involved as much as i can. thanks so much for any help……..

Submitted by Anonymous on Fri, 01/17/2003 - 10:37 AM

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I too have the same problem, I have ADHD.
and when my daughter brings home homework that she is struggling with, I haven’t a clue what do with it, or how to help.

for instance: My daughter brought home english homework, diagraming sentences….yeah right? I don’t remember ever doing that in school, if I did, I certainly don’t remember it, or how to do it.

I got a grammar book out of the library, and read it, several times, but not until I went into the teacher myself, and begged for her to show me how I could help my daughter did we both learn together and manage it.

Then talk about Algebra…oh my word…this is greek to me!!

fortunatly my husband does this in his job, he is a Mechial Engineneer, he was able to instruct her and help her.

We take one subject at a time, and so far I’ve been able to either seek help via books or internet, or found someone else to help.

best of luck to you,

Suzy

Submitted by Anonymous on Wed, 01/29/2003 - 1:02 AM

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Diana, please don’t be hard on yourself. I was having a similar discussion with another mom about fault. I just think, if you had kids and heaven forbid you were blind or deaf or had mobility problems, the children would cope and accept your abilities and limitations. It will be this way with your dyslexia too. The children will understand dyslexia, they will understand (probably before lots of other kids) that people are different and have different strengths and hardships, they will learn compassion and patience. If you keep your chin up and hold on to your pride, they’ll be fine with it. The homework will get done.

What you can do easily, do. What you can’t, ask around. Maybe there is a friend or a neighbor who has a secret desire to be a teacher and who would love to assist/tutor your child. Maybe you can trade time with other parents… they help yours with homework and you help theirs with creative projects, etc. Also, have resources!!! Find on-line help desks. Some local libraries have homework hours where librarians can assist with research/looking stuff up. Maybe even ask them to invite friends over for study sessions where they can help each other out…. it could work if you were providing structure. I guess what I’m saying is if you accept your limitations, your children will accept them too, and that will free you up to go outside your reach for help.

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