16yo son with ld I have many questions

I think that you need to dig up any reports you have from testind done on your child. If you haven’t the copies you can go to the school/school district and request a copy of his file. They might charge you for the copy. It is difficult for us to advice without knowing scores and diagnosis. If you post scores (standard scores are the ones that can be compared over time) people could better advice you. Give the age of the testing when you post. The important scores are the IQ and the achievement testing (reading, writing and math). Also what LD did they say he has?

Helen

Sounds to me like you’re doing ok and Ryan’s grades sure are impressive. As to what type of ld etc., that will make some difference with some advise you get here. Definitely get copies of all records if you don’t have them.

Our son is ld, predominantly dyslexic/dysgraphic (as am I). Ours is in Junior College, taking longer than some to get his AA. He is one class away from getting the general ed AA, and is now excited about taking the next 3 semesters needed to get the AA in Business… go figure!

Regarding a 16 year old boy wanting time alone, they/we all mature at different rates. He needs to find what excites him and he’ll open up. I am guessing, but he may be trying to insulate himself from discomfort and failure. If he likes the auto shop, maybe a part time job at a mechanic’s shop is possible. He could talk to his teacher who probably knows many people in the industry. He could earn some pocket money and credit… who knows? Mostly, he needs to find success in what ever areas and then build on that.

I hope things go well for you both.

Good luck and best regards.

Andy

I’m with Andy,
sounds to me like your kid is doing quite well.

At 16 he still has a alot of growing to do. Tommorow he might not be as introverted. Unless he shows signs of depression I wouldn’t worry. They change with the wind.

He is looking for his niche in life,just like any of us do,allow him to do this..

I am glad he is doing well, too, but I’ll have to agree with Helen, we’d need to see test scores. Making A’s in special ed. classes is not the same as regular ed. So he could actually be reading below grade level and making good grades in special ed. If it has been nearly 3 years since his last re-evaluation at school, you can ask for a new evaluation. Or, you can have the testing done privately. Whether he goes to a technical school or regular college will largely depend on whether his academic skills have been remediated or not. So you do need testing to determine that.

Janis

While we’d all like to see our children having fun and happy, does Ryan seem unhappy in his room? Some people are very happy as ‘loners’.

As to what he should do, what are his plans? When you ask him, what does he say about it? What’s he thinking he would like to do? I note that he’s taking auto mechanics. Maybe he has a sort of a plan.

There’s no one right answer to what any one should do after high school but it’s never wrong to take into considertation his interests and thoughts.

Good luck.

I should have added, my teenagers also live in their rooms! They did however, have real interest in driving. Not going out with boys his age is a blessing. But I would try to ascertain if he is depressed.

Janis