NLD in relationships

I would say that since you feel misunderstood, you might want to talk about that. I have NLD myself, and I know it is sometimes hard to tell if someone else really does “get it.” You’ve already talked about it before, so it’s not like it’ll do any harm to mention it. I say go for it.

I would say he is too old for you. He is going to be an educator so the fact that he lacks understanding should hold him in good stead.

If he hasn’t taken the time to understand you he probably isn’t worth your time.

I would guess that he is quite shallow. He should be dealing with women his own age. He probably has you BS’d. Most of the sped stuff is a bull anyway.

I bet he’s a bit boring and self-centered. He probably has only a few shares of stock in the Oscar Meyer Wiener dept.

If is was your dad I would run this loser off. If he won’t take the time to understand you he’s a loser. I bet he tells you how hot you look though.

It appears to me that you are concerned about mautrity level. Considering that, I feel that age is only a number between me and him. I learned the hard way that I can not date somebody who is immature. He is not lechery, and I am not an overgrown kid.

babeinpurple — there are a few people who use the “guest” identity to say hurtful things. Ignore this stuff. Now that I’ve jumped in there will probably be some more insults flying, but just let them pass. The rest of us are generally here to help. Don’t answer because it just gets dumber and dumber.

There’s nothing wrong with going out with someone in a different age range if you’re both adults and it suits both of you. In fact, back in the dark ages when I was young, it was considered appropriate for a woman to marry a man ten years older; men were supposed to make a career and be able to support a family, and women were supposed to have the family when they were young and strong.
Social roles have changed now but age does not define a person, even less now than before.

As far as NLD, well, I have had some realy hard times explaining myself in a few relationships and it is a long uphill battle. You are smart at A, B. and C, and people really get upseet when you fail at X and Y. You have to state your case firmly and draw a line and stick to it. If your partner respects you and believes you have real reasons for your actions, great. If he starts to make mean criticisms or to make fun of you in public because of your differences, tell him *once*, firmly, that you are not there to be a punching bag and that such behaviour is inappropriate; if he continues, you’re better off without him.

babeinpurple — there are a few people who use the “guest” identity to say hurtful things. Ignore this stuff. Now that I’ve jumped in there will probably be some more insults flying, but just let them pass. The rest of us are generally here to help. Don’t answer because it just gets dumber and dumber.

There’s nothing wrong with going out with someone in a different age range if you’re both adults and it suits both of you. In fact, back in the dark ages when I was young, it was considered appropriate for a woman to marry a man ten years older; men were supposed to make a career and be able to support a family, and women were supposed to have the family when they were young and strong.
Social roles have changed now but age does not define a person, even less now than before.

As far as NLD, well, I have had some realy hard times explaining myself in a few relationships and it is a long uphill battle. You are smart at A, B. and C, and people really get upseet when you fail at X and Y. You have to state your case firmly and draw a line and stick to it. If your partner respects you and believes you have real reasons for your actions, great. If he starts to make mean criticisms or to make fun of you in public because of your differences, tell him *once*, firmly, that you are not there to be a punching bag and that such behaviour is inappropriate; if he continues, you’re better off without him.

Hello purple,
Always be honest with people and especially with yourself.If you’re gut tells you it is right to be with him, then it is usually right. I’d keep explaining till he “gets it”. he may just be very busy becoming what he is becomming and be preoccupied at the moment and you have taken his disinterest the wrong way. I’m 52, ld, have a very understanding husband but he sometimes acts like yours does. Give him a few moe chances in case it is not what you suggest that is distracting his undying attention to you.
Thornbird

If don’t know you by now, he will never never never really know you.