I’ve posted off and on here for at least 6 years. With your help and support I’ve negotiated the special education maze, made medication decisions, and shared frustrations and small victories. Along the way I earned a master’s degree in counseling because I knew I could help families like mine. On Friday, my wonderful, oppositional, LD, ADHD daughter graduated from HS with an “advanced studies” diploma. We truly would not have made it without the folks here. Onward and upward.
Re: Thanks friends, she graduated!
How wonderful! My son is only 11 but I already know that for an LD child, a high school diploma is a real accomplishment (for the child AND the parent)!!
Beth
that is grrreeattt!!
Rover,
Man I feel tired….My ADD-Inattentive gifted son is graduating this Thursday..I found out on Friday he never ordered the cap and gown :roll: Then I find out he may be failing 2 of his AP classes unless he puts it in gear…So I light a fire under him :evil: which seems to have cut through the senioritis apathy he seems to be having since he found out he made it into the college of his choice. Now to make it through the AP Calculus Final…He did ok on the AP govt..and AP Psyche…
He just doesn’t seem to understand that his inattentive ways are going to haunt him in college…So I was thinking about making him sign a contract…something like…if I toast my grades I will have to pay back what it cost to my parents….what would you guys think about that?
patti
Re: Thanks friends, she graduated!
hey patti, we’ve got a red gown and a green one- what color do ya need? : )
I think some sort of “contract” could be helpful— I’d make it real specific (define “toast”) and based on what is realistic for him. Does his college offer support for students with ADHD? What about someone that could be an informal “coach”? Maybe agree to switch to community college if grades don’t cut it. We’ve always told our kids we’ll pay for 4 years- if it takes longer to get a degree they will pay. Of course that means we would have to accept it if they chose not to finish college. My son came darn close to losing his scholarship that required a 3.25 GPA because he skipped one class and therefore didn’t find out about an assignment. We didn’t want him to get suicidal over trying to maintain that GPA but were pretty sure he could do it… so we walked a fine line between pressure and “we’ll still love you if you don’t make it”. Good luck to you and your son!
well his ADD brother reminded me he had a black one...
In the closet…Sure enough…all I had to get was a tassel… :lol: got Jostens to give me one…then I find out he needs some kind of medallion…to go on the front of his attire… :oops: The guy from Jostens told me that they really have a huge problem with guys forgetting to order the caps and gowns… :shock: Girls are really good about it but guys…Yeah right :evil:
What I think part of the problem stems from is immaturity.. :shock: Of all my ADD kids he is the one that seemed like the old soul…but as he approached becoming an Adult he started to revert back to childhood..he even told me he didn’t want to grow up…Sounds of Peter Pan? Well he finally landed a job…just took him 18 years to be a grocery bagger…and he hates it…it is BENEATH him… :roll: I told him…”Hey, it is your attitude, it depends on how you look at your job…You get to make or break people’s days by how you smile or frown, the choice is yours…” Make a good one…
Re: Thanks friends, she graduated!
Have him observe the other baggers — including the older ones, which there are probably some of. Is that what he’d like in his future? (Also, of course, he can have the attitude of a charitable observer from the Upper Echelons — part of understanding the world is understanding people in different places & positions.
well he passed the class!!!
By the skin of his chinny chin chin…so that means he will graduate!! Hallelujah!! He still is on the fence about grad night though…
Yippiti Do Dah :-) :-)