Was wondering if anyone had any helpful advice for me. My 12 year old son has ADHD and also LD(dyxlexia,dysgraphia, and language impaired). He has an IEP for the above LD and also otherwise impaired for his ADHD. In elementary school we never had behavior issues other than the occassional “he needs to not blurt out answers”, or “he sometimes talks too much” or ” off task at times”. These all seemed to me to be direct manisfestations of his ADHD. His teachers felt the same and worked with him to manage/control this. However, since the beginning of middle school we have had a downhill spiral of him being a “behavior problem” (this is a direct quote from the assistant prin}. I recieve phone calls weekly about my son talking in class, not completing work in a timely fashion, tapping his pencil on desk, zipping his zipper back and forth, etc. No issues with violence, rudeness, etc. Today I get a phone call that he has recieved in school suspension for three days for again talking in class. The assistant principal said that if this happens one more time he will send son to the alternative school for children who have behavior issues. I feel that this is extreme for type of issues that he is having. Am I just blinded by the fact that this is my son and I love him. He also sent home a contract that was signed by him and my son stating that if he breaks any one of the three provisions of the contract he will go to this other school(alternative). The three provisions were. 1) completing classwork in a timely manner 2) follow classroom rules 3) Be socially appropriate at all time.
The one that really bugs me is number 1. This is part of his IEP that he be given shortened assignments and also be given extra time to complete assignments.
Sorry to ramble on so long just really stressed and could use any advice.
Thanks,
Chris
Re: Advice please
I have similar problems with my 5 year old. He’s been suspended from school 3 times this year and is facing expulsion. He talks to much or out of turn, but he also is aggressive. His medication seems to make him worse and now they have put him in a class room by himself. He can’t even go to P.E. with the rest of his class because they are afraid he will hurt one of the other children. The parents of the other children have called the school and literally told them to keep my son away from their children. The other children taunt and tease him and agitate him to the point he has no choice but to lash out. Now I’m getting blamed. They’re saying that I don’t discipline him and that’s what his problem is. They don’t understand what’s going on with him and that we’re trying as best we can to help him. I don’t know what else to do, but I can certainly sympathize with how stressed you are.
This is completely outrageous! I would call an immediate IEP meeting to include the asst. princ. and get this straightened out. Not only is he in violation of the IEP but he is punishing your son for his disability. This becomes a civil rights violation.