Recently I’ve attracted “flames” from some other posters. These posts are not in keeping with the positive direction of the board in general, and it is certainly not my intention to turn the site into a “flame war.”
I tend to be a strong and definite personality, and if there is a confrontational person around, I will attract that confrontation.
As many of the parents here have discovered, politeness can allow some people to walk all over you, and there is a time to stand up for your opinions. I think (please correct me if I’m wrong!) that I’m standing up for a lot of us when I refuse to accept myths and nonsense. I’ll take the flak for being in the front of the group. Sometimes I challenge the person to come out and state their ideas, just to expose the myths and nonsense, and then of course I take a lot of flak.
Sorry for the negative posts that have been drawn, and I’ll take the discussion elsewhere if this bothers too many people.
Re: I enjoy your commentaries!!!
I agree and I even enjoy your commentary on “magic cures.” As the parent of a child with significant LDs, I know all too well that there is no magic cure—just some things that are more effective than others and a lot of hard work. Just as an aside, by definition, I have less respect for any approach that uses flashy advertising. I appreciate your and others efforts to help the rest of us sort out what is useful and what can well be discarded.
Beth
Re: My apologies to the readers of this board
Hi Victoria, I am also a strong person and have had my share of flames in the past. Please don’t leave, I enjoy your posts! I have learned that it is so hard for some people to accept that what they have believed in all of these years really isn’t helping the kids. I am always amazed that many people treat learning how to read as a religion. If a program doesn’t work for me, I don’t use it again. I think that many people feel that there will always be those kids that can’t learn how to read and this being the case, rationalizes programs that don’t teach most to read and keep using them.
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It happens to all of us…from time to time. and FYI I have done my share of eating crow and dousing fires I started over the years too..we are all human, we make mistakes. don’t be so hard on yourself.
Re: My apologies to the readers of this board
It happens to all of us- and as long as it is clear that you are not being deliberately provoking- and that is always clear- it is the other poster’s issues and responsibility- not yours. I ALWAYS enjoy your posts Victoria.
Robin
Re: My apologies to the readers of this board
In my opinion, a discussion board is about sharing our ideas, asking questions……….I welcome opinions. I am opinionated, too.
Re: My apologies to the readers of this board
VICTORIA…several times I have wanted to tag onto one of your posts and say just how much I value you! I hang out here mostly to see what YOU have to say…guess I should have!
Please keep being yourself. I value every minute you spend on this forum and on the Teaching Math board — you help me so much, and I WISH I had been here when my (dyslexic and so far computationally challenged 8 YO) son was in first grade.
Differences of opinion exist, ESPECIALLY when dealing with learning problems and school troubles. If someone flames you for being honest and true to your beliefs, ignore them. WE will too!
Best wishes,
Elizabeth
Re: My apologies to the readers of this board
Victoria, you are one of a few people on here that I will search out and read all posts you’ve written. You are helping me to refine and refresh my knowledge in LD. I know enough to know who really KNOWS! Lol!
Janis
Re: My apologies to the readers of this board
Victoria, I also have thought your posts extremely helpful, though new to these sites I’ve read all back postings-esp yours. We’re dealing with our babies here. People are going to get emotional and desperate to be right. But sometimes parents need to be confronted and challenged in order to rethink the problem and priorities. Steady on.
And by way I just read about ODD? Do they medicate kids for this?? Cause this just sounds like a kid whose been put down, pushed past bearing and is mad as hell and not going to take it anymore. It’s cruel punishment to constantly fail at what the others get right away. It’s terrifying to know sometimes when you try the info will be there and you can do it but sometimes not. Will you be able to answer the question asked this time or not- you can’t trust your own brain. you have no control. You FEEL the constant pressure that there’s something wrong with you and you’re stupid and stupid is bad (despite all the nicey-nice words people use when talking to you.)The words self-esteem just don’t begin to cover this torture. Who the hell wouldn’t have emotional probs after years of this. Ever watch the movie Gaslight? Welcome to the world of the LD child.
Victoria,
This board desperately needs your continued input - don’t take it elsewhere, please! After many months of reading this board, I’ve come to expect certain posters to always have useful, informative information to share in an intelligent and thoughtful way. You most certainly fall into that catagory. Please continue to offer us the benefit of your experiences - I, for one, have often been helped enormously by your discussions.